Make Love Not Porn

“Sexuality is one of the ways that we become enlightened, actually, because it leads us to self-knowledge.” -Alice Walker

This morning, through my Facebook business page, I received a direct message from a total stranger. The message said, “I want to make you cum so HARD!” This message came from a man I have not only never met personally but never even interacted with online or otherwise.

Unfortunately, receiving comments or messages like this is not uncommon for me. You might think that I would be pissed or at least offended. Instead, my mind goes to an even more intriguing place. I think to myself how? What technique would this total stranger use to make me cum so HARD!?!

It is in that moment that I remember why I embrace my Super Power; helping men achieve sexual mastery. I remember why I teach people how to experience positive, healthy, expressive, connected and deeply pleasurable sex and intimacy. So I thank this total stranger for the “hard” reminder (pun intended).

It is likely that this young man has absolutely no ability to back up his claim. Because I can guarantee you that, even if I laid naked before him and allowed him to do whatever horrendous sexual acts to my body that he thought would make me cum HARD… I would not experience pleasure and I would certainly not have an orgasm. Call me odd but for some reason, I like to dive into the minds of others…

I imagine he would likely flip me over and take me from behind slamming away wildly with zero awareness of the woman on the other end. Possibly he’d think I want him to jam his manhood down my throat. Maybe he would pleasure me by ejaculating on my face or if I was truly blessed maybe he’d bless my vagina with a good ole finger banging. Because that always makes women cum HARD! Right!?!

Oh my, what an interesting world we live in. I look forward to the day when our society no longer needs sex coaches and therapists. I look forward to the day when people make love not porn. I apologize if this post seems off topic or in bad taste. I choose to write about these moments rather than allowing myself to shut down or feel overwhelmed by how sexually f*cked up our wold is.

From my heart to yours,

Joy

14 Comments Add yours

  1. Dylan Kerr says:

    Very interesting post. Porn is just not healthy at all and its terrible for young people who have limited experience in anything else.

    1. I fully agree with your perception. Thanks for sharing

  2. Kenneth Benoit says:

    Re. “Wants to make you cum so hard” this man has no idea how to connect or make love. I believe his only goal is self pleasure. He only wants to get himself off . Personally , it is much more satisfying to connect spiritually with the women I am with. I am most fulfilled when I am able to fulfill the needs of the women I am with. Whether her needs be physical , spiritual, conversational, of just being together and holding each. Getting myself off is the least important…..cheers

    1. Beautiful thank you so much for sharing

  3. Neill Roynon says:

    Brilliant assement

  4. Kenneth Benoit says:

    There is so much more the intercourse, or oral, to making love. As a male you loves being naked in mixed company .and lives sex, i realize I still have a lot to learn about the female body and how to pleasure a women and how to completely satisfy her. I am always willing to learn and experience new techniques and open to suggestions and mentoring.

    1. Kenneth Benoit says:

      Hi Joy, yes I am on twitter. @benke1313

      1. Awesome if you follow me on Twitter GetNakedWithJoy you’ll see the challenge

  5. Chris says:

    An absolute ridiculous situation that you faced with this, why can’t people separate sexuality with personal freedom and expression.

  6. Michael Rankin says:

    I so agree with you. As man I found make love to a woman really making love! Is the only way for me to connect to the woman. Porn never really excited me. I just didn’t see the love in that. I wonder at times that I might be a different person to feel that way. After reading your post I knew I wasn’t the only one. Some where along the line of growing up I have mature so much. I take the time a lone to connect my soul clear my mind and I do this nude. I’m very comfortable of my being. Thank you for sharing this. Michael

    1. Beautiful Michael, thanks for sharing! You are so not alone. 💗

  7. Russell A LaSota says:

    Nice reaction to a negative situation

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